What Happened?
Lone
Member2KFeb-27-2017 4:04 AMAm I alone, completely out of step with what is current, living in my own false reality? Does anyone else understand why I feel the need to censor myself to a point which equates to me thinking I should probably leave SCIFIED after almost five years, before I find myself banned?
This used to be the place where I felt at home. Safe and sheltered from the madness that is Facebook, Twitter, and the worst aspects of the Interwebz. Somehow I have become guilty of the very things I deplore. I was a pretty reserved and considerate person, rational and for the most part open minded. People who really know me would certainly back that up.
Yet here and now, I feel as if I have become infected by a horrible, ugly disease. One which compels me to jump on other people’s opinions and react in the most extreme manner, taking what they say to heart, or misinterpreting the meaning in an irrational and incomprehensible way.
I often feel anger, and worse still, something close to hatred rising up inside me. This cannot go on, so to anyone who I have upset, annoyed or dissed, please accept my heartfelt apologies.
I realise this will be classed as drama, which is not acceptable under SCIFIED’s rules, but I just wondered if anyone else can understand what my SCIFIED persona has become?
This has always been a place for us to come together and celebrate all that we love and hold dear about the aspects of Science Fiction that we adore. I am saddened that I have strayed so far from that ideal. I guess I am saying goodbye, and that pains me because I really do love this place!
"Let The Cosmic Incubation Begin" ~ H.R. Giger
ninXeno426
Member2KFeb-27-2017 5:06 AMGood bye Lone,i'll miss you.I hope your departure isn't permanent :(
Nothing the God of biomechanics wouldn't let you in heaven for
Dr. Curt Connors
MemberContributorFeb-27-2017 7:24 AMWow, what happened? I'm sorry, I haven't been on here for long but I have found some people don't let you say what you want, shoot down theories, always correct everything, have to be right about everything, so I know exactly how you feel. What's the point of having an opinion when people end up attacking you for it, you are not alone. It's unfortunately what happens when you give people the platform to say whatever they want from the comfort of their home and would never say to you if you were face to face with them. It's where the term fanboy comes from and gives people who just want to have a conversation with like minded fans the bad name they get sometimes. Don't let the weight of the few overtake the many. I have been frustrated recently but always try to react with the best intentions. I know it's hard sometimes, I'm sorry Lone, I will miss your thoughts and your knowledge and most of all you.
Something Real
MemberLegendFeb-27-2017 8:07 AMLONE - You are not alone. I am with you. I urge you to not allow your negative emotions to win out against the good. Please, remain here with your friends. The clouds will diminish. The water will eb away - and there will always be firm land upon which to stand. :)
BigDave
MemberMartianFeb-27-2017 9:30 AMLone
sorry to hear that, its been a good few years of having some interesting debates and i have always liked many of your posts, take care in what ever you do and KNOW the door is always open here.
I do think i am one of those who can be taken the wrong way ;)
I do hope people never think my posts or the way i reply seems like i am correcting, sometimes i dont agree with others interpretations but i just add my two cents and then use clues and evidence that i think supports my theories but i never disrespect others and even if someone has a wild theory that has not real evidence i still can respect that and many i even say they are some good theories, but its unlikely we are seeing this.
i DO sometimes use caps and Bold only to emphasize points.
I can fully agree that we have seen a few things where some people do not know how to debate and treat others with respect and there has been a few who use bashful words against others instead of being disrespectful.
But you will get that on any kind of internet forum be it Facebook, Twitter, Youtube.... in life the internet is a means some can put Bluntly what they feel and want to say with no care of how it comes across and offends people....
Which is sad really...
Hopefully you will pop by now and again...
Take Care
Dave
R.I.P Sox 01/01/2006 - 11/10/2017
BigDave
MemberMartianFeb-27-2017 9:31 AMBut i will add...
When we do see signs of people who are acting a bit out of order to other and Flamming or Trolling People the Mods are usually quick to Warn them and then Ban any who take no notice.
R.I.P Sox 01/01/2006 - 11/10/2017
Centauri
Member2KFeb-27-2017 9:36 AM@lone. Ur an awesome member. Don't allow trolls to steal your joy. ;} <3
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"Must be something we haven't seen yet.."__Bishop
http://www.alien-covenant.com/series/
Dr. Curt Connors
MemberContributorFeb-27-2017 9:44 AM@BigDave You are definitely not one of them to me, love all the things you say and always look forward to hearing your theories and thoughts.
Lone
Member2KFeb-27-2017 11:07 AMThank you everyone for your very kind words and encouragement...it's me who is the problem...or rather my attitude!
BigDave- You are the best of us, you have a terrific attitude, always cheerful, always helpful, and your approach to others ideas and thoughts is always considerate and much appreciated.
You also do all of the hard work for us, taking the time to analyse and break things down so we don't have to. We know you absolutely love and enjoy doing that and you have our thanks.
We all look up to you and have the greatest respect for you!
"Let The Cosmic Incubation Begin" ~ H.R. Giger
Something Real
MemberLegendFeb-27-2017 11:24 AMLONE - You are not the problem. You are simply reacting to the real problem: our society has an illness that is causing too much stress and anger within the majority of the population, resulting in uncertainty. Nobody really knows where they stand with others anymore - and that is unacceptible. Like all maladies, you must fight through it. Speak your mind and think what you desire, even if it is branded "out of touch" with today's society. Trust me, I am not afraid to go against what is deemed "mainstream" these days - and if more of us do so, we will be able to regain equilibrium. In the end, you will find your way to the other side, which is a much brighter and constant place. :)
Facehuggers
MemberRespectedFeb-27-2017 3:09 PMLone,
You're an awesome member, never forget that. Every week, I sign onto Scified just so I can communicate with fantastic fans such as yourself, Chris, Big Dave, Something Real, S.M., Dark Nebula, Centauri, etc. etc.
Having just one of those members leave makes my day a little cloudier, for I'll miss love reading new material (about Noobernaut ships and Jonesy)!
If you do leave, remember that everyone can always learn to forgive and forget, and that one is always welcomed to these stimulating forums. Sure, take a break, I do occasionally too, but always feel free to sign back on ;)
Cheers,
FACEHUGGERS!
BigDave
MemberMartianFeb-27-2017 3:24 PMThank you Lone
This place will be here for a while, and i am sure i speak for the most of us when i say your input is always welcomed ;)
"LONE - You are not the problem. You are simply reacting to the real problem: our society has an illness that is causing too much stress and anger within the majority of the population, resulting in uncertainty. "
This is very true and also a very sad fact too
i like to think its more of a minority though and that at least more than 50% of people are not like that ;)
R.I.P Sox 01/01/2006 - 11/10/2017
ninXeno426
Member2KFeb-27-2017 5:19 PMDon't stay gone long Lone.Like many others,I've really enjoyed talking to you.You are one of the most genuinely funny people i know.We will be here when you are ready,and we will all give you a big welcome back :)
Nothing the God of biomechanics wouldn't let you in heaven for
NCC 1701
Veteran MemberMemberNoobFeb-27-2017 6:27 PMBye Lone , i always looked for your post ,,,,
you will be missed ,,
Ati
Member2KFeb-27-2017 6:53 PMDear Lone,
Last summer I visited this site, and I thought 'Wow, such an interesting group of Alien fans. It would be exciting to join them.' Let me name the members of the group in question: BigDave, Michelle Johnston, Something Real, Centauri, Facehuggers, Diz, Chris - of course :), Lone... This group is the BIG group for me. These members are the reason I entered the site and became a member. And yes, your name is included and it tells everything...
(Perhaps you remember the post about the pipes around the Derelict. You were my teacher... :)
We need posts like your fantastic Gutalin one. You are needed.
Necronom 4
MemberRespectedFeb-28-2017 2:48 AMLone, my old pal. You was one of the first members to welcome me to this site and it was you that encouraged me to stick around when I felt like I didn't belong here.
We have had many, many engaging and passionate debates on this site over the years none of which would have been fun or interesting without your input!
I've always greatly appreciated your intelligent, sometimes passionate articles and replies over the years and also your strong loyalty to Ridley and Giger!
If leaving is something that you feel you need to do then I respect that. But I urge you to reconsider! This place would definitely not be as interesting or fun without your presence! And you would be greatly missed!
The poster was good though!