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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 7:49 AMHave any of you felt a specific way towards someone? I really need advice because I'm struggling with this. I know some of you might be thinking "It's just raging teen hormones!" but it's not. There are two girls a my school I like. One's a junior and the other is a freshman, like me. I've known the freshmen since the seventh grade and I meet the junior this year. I've never told anyone this until now, but the reason I want to be in a relationship is because I hate being alone. I've always been alone and I've tried to start a relationship with someone, but just like my dreams, it always end up in flames. There was a time where I thought that a girl did like me. I did a lot of things for her, but in the end, she still was like all the other girls that I loved but couldn't be with them. Please tell me what to do because I've been struggling with this since school started. I saw the freshmen at a thing here at school and when she saw me, I felt like I just got struck to the head with lighting by Mjolnir. I see her everyday and one day, I went to go talk to her because she was sitting by herself, but she saw me and I couldn't do it because I got scared. I need help, please.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 8:19 AMUm... I might need more information here. Specifically on how you feel and act around them, and how they act around you. Those are some important factors.
But for now, I suggest not doing it. Depending on your year, you'll be too busy to go on dates and the such. Also, these feelings will probably pass after awhile. If they don't go, just distance yourself from them until the feelings pass.
Note: Not exactly experienced in this area, so take it with a grain of salt.
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 8:28 AMThere are a lot of couples here and i feel like a kid standing in the world's greatest video game arcade without any quarters, unable to do anything but walk around and watch the other kids play.
Being alone sucks.
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 9:13 AMCan anyone give me advice about this? It's hard because I don't have a phone nor a car, and all I do in my free time is either play Bendy on my PS4, draw, watch Godzilla movies or listen to classic rock from the 70's, 80's and 90's.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 9:38 AMMonster_Zero 2112
The couples you are noticing may not be as common as you think, so much so as they stand out more due to you being a little watchful for it due to feeling lonely. That's just my opinion, though. I notice similar things, but it helps realizing that the only reason they feel so common is because they stand out so much.
Also, just because you aren't in a romantic relationship doesn't mean you're alone. You have your family, friends, enemies, etc. Yes, having enemies does kinda help. Enemies are fun if you have the right enemies (don't go out seeking to make enemies, though. Much better to have a good friend or a person you don't know well than an enemy). Really, you don't need to focus on getting into a relationship right now. You have the rest of your life to focus on it. For now, enjoy the stuff you won't have time to later in life, like having your friends and family nearby all the time, or watching Godzilla movies and playing video games on a pretty regular basis. Heck, you probably won't even have time for THAT soon, when you hit junior year (unless you're already a junior and found a way to work that in, for which I applaud you). You probably won't have as much time for that if you get into a relationship, as a side note. If you feel lonely, how about organizing a get together with some friends? Like, going out to watch a movie or get some food, etc? Maybe go with your family to Panera or Mcdonalds or whatever food place you want to go?
Also, from what you've described so far, that sounds like infatuation, which typically leads to very short relationships.
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 9:42 AMMy only friends are you guys. But yeah, I guess you're right. Thanks, and I wish I was a junior, but sadly, I'm a freshman.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 9:45 AMBruh, juniors WISH they were freshmen. Junior year sucks. Source: Am junior who knows a lot of people, adult and fellow high schoolers alike, that hate Junior year of high school. Freshmen year is kinda fun!
Also, that may be the cause of your loneliness. You probably just need to make some friends and that lonely sensation will go away. But clear something up for me, I thought you said you were friends with one of the girls in seventh grade?
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 9:48 AMI was, but I left the school due to personal reasons, so when I came here, I saw her, for the first time in three years.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 9:58 AMOk, thanks for clearing that up. That being said, I think you should wait for these feelings to pass and to try to make some friends. That's just imo tho. You probably want more opinions.
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 11:09 AMYeah. Plus, I saw her at In-n-Out on Halloween, when I went with my cousin and sisters. I did have friends that lived right across from, but they always treated me like crap, and well, I don't hang out with them anymore. If anyone has advice, please help me.
dk
MemberLegendJan-10-2020 12:24 PMall I do in my free time is either play Bendy on my PS4, draw, watch Godzilla movies or listen to classic rock from the 70's, 80's and 90's.
That's a great place to start. Finding common interests and not trying to fake things to impress someone.
Not being nosy but the question was put out there.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 12:30 PMI'd suggest trying to become friends again, unless you both changed too much in the past three years for that to be possible. Make some more friends (hopefully none as bad as the ones you mentioned) and wait for these feelings to pass. Not in that specific order. Probably the second thing, the third thing, then the first thing. Too lazy to rearrange it.
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MemberConversationalistJan-10-2020 1:13 PMThanks guys. This really means a lot. You, and everyone else on scified, are my friends.
TheLazyFish
MemberRespectedJan-10-2020 1:31 PMNo problem.
If people weren't lazy, we wouldn't try to be efficient. If we weren't efficient, we'd never get anything done.
Gavin
MemberLegendJan-10-2020 10:06 PMMy advice, watch the movie Some Kind of Wonderful, it may help you get some perspective on the situation.
dk
MemberLegendJan-10-2020 11:15 PMI know this comes from the geezer age, but adding to Gavin, Revenge of the Nerds could give some perspective as well. It's about confidence.
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MemberConversationalistJan-13-2020 6:26 AMWargames, too?